This is usually the time of year that I start beating myself up for all the things I didn't manage to achieve last year. I won't be so hard on myself this year.
I recently read a book that I honestly think was and is lifechanging: The Kindness Method by Shahroo Izadi. Shahroo has years of experience in helping clients struggling with addiction. In the book she shows us how these same principles can help anyone seeking to make small or big changes in their own lives.
Key Principles of The Kindness Method
- Compassion over criticism: Traditional methods often rely on shame or strict punishment to force change. This method argues that self-forgiveness and understanding build more sustainable motivation.
- Identify what works (and what doesn't): Instead of focusing only on what you are trying to stop, you map out past behaviors and identify your unique triggers and conditions for success.
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Focus on your strengths: You are encouraged to list accomplishments and positive qualities so you do not feel like you are starting from zero.
The Process
Rather than trying to rely on sheer willpower, the Shahroo guides readers through the creation of individual reflections and resources which become practical bespoke tools for success.
- Self-Awareness Maps: You examine your habits and record why they emerged and what triggers them.
- Snapshot Letters: You write letters to acknowledge where you are and map out your realistic goals without judging yourself for past failures.
- What a Best Friend Would Say: You practice internal dialogue by reflecting on what you would say if a loved one were trying to break the exact same habit.
- Gradual Change: You focus on small, achievable steps and celebrate minor victories rather than demanding perfection
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